For the purpose of our context let us understand that there are differences between Phobia vs Fear vs etc. We can keep Phobias out of this discussion. Some of the phobias might not be really impacting your day to day living. For e.g phobia about Spiders etc. You can check here the Top 100 Phobias. http://www.fearof.net/. Very interesting list.
Coming to different types of FEARS. There might be hundreds and thousands of fears exist. We mostly deal with these Top 10 fears. http://listverse.com/2011/09/30/top-10-strong-human-fears/. Interestingly, you see fear in Failure being the top of the list. This is exactly the reason many people are scared to take decisions and try new things. What really happens when you try new thing? In the worst case you might fail. What happens when you fail – it creates pain. But your mind never wants to experience any pain and it always wants pleasure. Get comfortable with pain and when you live in the present moment you will be able to notice pain as normal experience. You will also realize that as part of the nature’s complimentary nature pain and pleasure are part of the deal. You can’t really avoid one thing and try to get other thing.
Going back to the list of fears. Some of the top 10 fears are as follows. Not in any order.
Fear of Death
Fear of Failure
Fear of Disease
Fear of Rejection
Fear of possessions
Fear of unknown
Fear of losing freedom
Fear of Loneliness
Fear of Pain
Fear of Criticism
Let’s closely analyze all these FEARS. What are you noticing in all these? For me, all these looks like losing some thing. It can be anything. I can be losing life, respect, security, money, safety, comfort, pleasure, etc. So, fear is nothing but losing some thing. What happens when we lose some thing? It creates pain. Your brain does not want to experience pain. So, the bottom line is we need to get comfortable with pain. But how can we get comfortable with Pain? And why should we get comfortable with pain? Isn’t life about happiness? This is where the secret lies. If you live life the way we life should be live then, you would automatically experience the bliss. But, if you are just only focused on getting happiness then you would avoid all kinds of pains and fears and eventually you only experience very limited level of happiness.
I will talk about 25 different solutions which will help you to romance with your fears.
