It all starts with what kind of base brain and body type we are born with. Genetics play a major role in this. With all these, unique DNA (except for identical twins) gets formed. Are you thinking why I am starting with brain, DNA, etc in Psychology topic?. This is very very important to recognize that we all are born Unique. And this fundamental basis is forgotten in our understanding and interactions.
Your base brain gets shaped based on the experiences you go through during early formative age. Environment, parenting and overall experiences forms your brain and associated emotions. Even though we are born Unique, mostly, no one (parents, teachers, etc) will take this into consideration. Then you are put in the society. It will be like a market place. Your unique nature will be taken out and will be measured with every one else. It starts with comparing you with your brother/sister and then in the school. You will be put in the education system irrespective of what you are made up of. And in parallel you hear the slogans like ” anybody can any thing if you have will, blah blah..”. These are motivational stuff. Reality is different. You will be able to do well what you are best suited.
You are born unique and then you get merged into the mix and then for rest of the life you try to uncover you uniqueness (mostly half of your age will be over by this time) and fight for it.
Recognizing your own uniqueness and other person’s will give most clarity and solutions to many human related problems.
Gud one, this uniqueness is something we forget in how we treat people and is source of all the personality issues that get developed later. You should become a full time coach and help humans.
Yes Kishore, you are right. Appreciating uniqueness is not for personal happiness. Real development of any nation will come only when people are appreciated for their uniqueness and given freedom. USA is best example of this. Fastest way for India’s development will come when this happens. Reforms are mechanical options and takes long time.
I don’t think I am a coach ;). Just sharing what I know from my personal experiences and observations. Thanks